Today is 27 months. One of the biggest revelations I’ve had over these past 27 months is that the phrase, “I’d die for you” is actually a selfish statement. Romance and love stories paint that this concept is the ultimate show of love – the willingness to die for someone. Yet, it is actually the reverse.
The intense love that is brought on in a relationship such as marriage also brings with it a fear of living without that love. We marry someone because we don’t want to imagine a life without them. Hence, we’re willing to die for them. That willingness is born out of our selfish desire to not have to grieve them. The romance actually belongs to the survivor – the one who not only has to imagine life without the other half, but has to do life.